It’s finals week and almost spring break! If you’re feeling stressed about grades and exams, self-soothing is a great way to relax. Self-soothing is a distress tolerance skill that uses the five senses (smell, taste, touch, hearing, and vision). The goal of this skill is to find comforting activities that can ease distress through the five senses. When we’re in a distressing situation or having upsetting thoughts, it can be easy to jump into action without thinking and it can be just as difficult to calm yourself down. Using the self-soothing skill through the five senses, you can slow down, ease negative thoughts, and overall, lower your distress.

A few examples of these activities include lighting a candle (smell), eating a comforting meal or enjoying a cup of tea (taste), taking a bath or using a favorite blanket (touch), listening to music that is calming (hearing), or taking a walk outside or viewing art you like (vision).

Another self-soothing activity can be done through meditation. Through a body scan meditation, you take a break from the stress of what is going in the present and you can reconnect with where your emotions are at as you shift your awareness to your body. Click here to check out a great beginner’s body scan meditation!

When we’re able to step back from what is distressing us, we’re doing ourselves a favor. Self-soothing can be an act of kindness towards yourself and, ultimately, can help you think more clearly when your emotions are running high – which is great for de-stressing during finals week!

The STOP Skill

Crises happen all the time, whether you’re in college or not. From academic stress, to social and family stress, it can be helpful to have tools to help you manage situations and events that cause emotions to run high. Sometimes when our emotions run high, we’re tempted to act impulsively or reactively – meaning that we don’t think about the consequences of our words or actions in the moment. Sometimes we end up regretting what we’ve said or done when we act impulsively. The STOP skill can be used to help make better decisions in the moment.

  • Stop
  • Take a step back
  • Observe
  • Proceed mindfully

The first step, stop, is freezing in the moment. Instead of angrily saying something back to someone – it’s pausing. Next, take a step back, ask yourself how you want to respond. It’s important here to give yourself time to cool off or calm down. Observe is next – what is going on around you? How do you feel? Sometimes we want to assume we know everything that is going on in a situation, but that’s not usually the case. Take time to gather information so you can understand what is going on with other people involved. Lastly, proceed mindfully. Whatever the situation, there is an optimal outcome – how can you respond to the situation so that your goals are met? What do you want out of the situation? After utilizing the STOP skill, you can move forward calmly and towards a better outcome.

Like all skills, the STOP skill can be difficult to master, but practicing it can help you handle distress and difficult situations easier!

Harmful Eating Habits

All month we’ve been talking about body image and weight, from the Freshman 15 to defining healthy to body positivity. Unfortunately, eating disorders continue to have a presence on college campuses. The most commonly talked about eating disorders are anorexia, bulimia, and binge-eating disorder. While it’s important to know about these eating disorders, what they look like, and how you can help others struggling with these disorders, it’s also valuable to know about other harmful eating habits. While someone may not be diagnosed with an eating disorder, this doesn’t erase the possibility that they could have harmful eating habits. It’s important to recognize for yourself, and among others, what disordered or harmful eating habits may look like, so that they can be changed before turning into a serious problem.

Chewing and spitting food, and over-exercising as a way to manage the amount of calories you’ve consumed, are two harmful habits. Chewing and spitting food avoids swallowing the food, therefore restricting and preventing the consumption of calories and nutrients that your body needs. The medical consequences of this habit include stomach ulcers and dental problems. Similarly, over-exercising, or excessive exercising, can be harmful to your health as you push your body to the extreme, often while going over the amount of energy your body can produce. This can lead to malnutrition, injury, and illness. Both of these harmful habits can make you feel isolated and can consume your thoughts – negatively impacting your social and academic life.

What can you do for yourself or others in your life that may be struggling? Reach out to the Counseling Center or call the 24-hour Crisis Line at (206) 461-3222. Additionally, you can reach out to NEDA where you can either call or chat online anonymously to ask questions about eating disorders and harmful eating habits.

Body Positivity

Body positivity – you’ve probably heard of this before. It’s a movement that started in the mid 90’s to change the way our culture and media understand and define beauty. The goal of the body positivity movement is to affirm and value unique beauty and is meant to inspire self-acceptance and well-being of your own body. Body positivity also addresses how you view others and brings awareness to body shaming – which you may do to yourself and to those around you. Body positivity is not just for young women – it’s for all gender identities, ages, ethnicities, and races.

While it’s a wonderful idea, self-acceptance and appreciation of your own body probably isn’t going to happen overnight. It’s hard to stop automatic self-shaming thoughts and judgments of other people. Fortunately, there are a few things you can do to adopt a more positive body outlook!

Awareness of negative thoughts about yourself and others will allow you to be more mindful of future thoughts. Once you can identify negative thoughts when they’re happening, ask yourself where those thoughts are coming from. For instance, the thoughts, “I should be thinner” or “She shouldn’t be eating that”, are shaming and harsh judgments to make about yourself and others. These thoughts also employ “should” statements, which are cognitive distortions. Cognitive distortions are thoughts that we believe to be true but are not actually true. Our brain can use cognitive distortions to reinforce negative beliefs about ourselves and others, keeping the negative cycle of thoughts going.

Once you take a step back to look at the thoughts you’re having about yourself and those around you, you can make steps towards changing those thoughts. Finally, body positivity is a way of thinking – it may take time to change your automatic thoughts about your own body and other’s, but the benefits of accepting and appreciating yourself is worth it. You’ll find your self-esteem will go up, impacting not only how you see yourself and your successes or failures, but also how you interact with others. Happiness and self-acceptance are contagious!

Defining Healthy

We are flooded with messages and images of dieting and tips on “how to be thin” and “healthy”. Being thin has not always been desirable – it wasn’t until the 1800s that Americans became concerned with dieting. At the time, however, it wasn’t about being thin and “beautiful” – it was about minimizing fat to be healthy. Now, there are a plethora of diets but healthy has become synonymous with thin, but being thin does not mean someone is healthy and vice versa, being healthy does not mean being thin.

What does being healthy actually mean and what does it look like?

The World Health Organization (WHO) defines health as a physical, mental, and social well-being.  But they also emphasize that a healthy lifestyle means leading a full life. Being healthy goes beyond exercising regularly and eating less junk food. Being healthy is about feeling good  - both inside and out. Being healthy is a lifestyle and the WHO refers to this as a state of enhanced well-being, meaning that being healthy is a life-long process of wellness. It’s moving forward and making positive choices that impact your physical, mental, and social well-being with the goal of living a full life.

How does this apply to you in college? College can be stressful and chaotic. Being healthy can slip to the bottom of your priority list. Western culture and social media place importance on quick fixes to getting healthy, such as dieting, and it’s often misguided. The challenge for you then, when you’re thinking of eating better or exercising, is to ask yourself what would help you live a full life and what does that life look like? When answering these questions, try to come from a place of acceptance – you are uniquely you and your full life will not be the same as someone else. Lastly, take baby steps towards being healthy and see how you feel along the well. Being healthy is a life-long journey!

The Freshman 15

The Freshman 15, the idea that young adults in their first year of college gain approximately 15 pounds, is well-known and has been popularized in media – it was first mentioned in a Seventeen magazine article in 1989. But is there research to support the Freshman 15? No. College weight gain has been studied many times and the Freshman 15 is a myth.

The average young adult in college gains anywhere from 2 to 5 pounds and this is normal. Whether or not you’re a college student actually makes little difference – college-aged young adults gain weight even when not in college.

What does contribute to above average weight gain in college?

  • Alcohol, especially binge drinking, can contribute to weight gain, especially as you are likely to make poor food decisions during or after drinking.
  • Irregular eating habits – figuring out when to squeeze in meals around classes can be difficult, but if you can commit to a schedule and not skip healthy meals, your body will thank you.
  • Snacking – eating regular meals will help with snack cravings but try to be aware of mindless eating, especially during studying or when you’re feeling stressed.

So, what does all this mean? You should be kind to yourself about small amounts of weight gain in college. Media has popularized being overly weight-conscious and paranoia over weight gain in college for both men and women. College is a stressful time and you will make choices that are not 100% healthy – that’s ok. It’s normal. Healthy eating, such as mindful eating, avoiding alcohol, and exercising can help you feel better long-term. All in all, try to not put so much pressure on yourself, especially regarding weight, and try to embrace the college experience mindfully - even the late-night treats!

Faculty Spotlight: Eating Disorders

Eating disorders, such as anorexia, bulimia, and binge-eating disorder, pose a risk to college students’ physical and mental health. Despite eating disorders being more common among females, eating disorder prevalence in college has risen among both male and female students.1 This increase may be due to a number of triggering events, such as the stress of moving away to college, changes in sleep and eating habits, academic and financial stress, and adjusting to new routines. Similarly, there are a number of biological, psychological, and social risk factors for eating disorders.

The popular perception of eating disorders is that individuals are motivated primarily by a desire to be thin. While this may be true, research indicates that the mechanisms by which disordered eating develops or occurs are more complicated. Low self-esteem, how an individual sees their own value, and depression, may all have an impact on disordered eating.2 However, research among a college student sample found low self-esteem and depression alone does not lead to abnormal eating behavior.2 Body dissatisfaction, a negative view of one’s own body, was found to be a mediator between self-esteem and depression, suggesting that body dissatisfaction, in combination with low self-esteem and depression, may have an important role in the development of abnormal eating behavior.2

What can we do with this information? Understanding and being aware of some of the underlying psychological factors of eating disorders and abnormal eating behavior can help us help students. Eating disorders in college are often untreated or undiagnosed as students will typically hide their behavior. Low self-esteem and signs of depression may be easier to notice in a classroom than abnormal eating behavior. Reaching out to students, fostering a body positive environment, and providing them with resources (such as the Counseling Center) are a great way to support students who may be struggling with low self-esteem, depression, body dissatisfaction, or abnormal eating behavior.

For more information about eating disorders and signs of abnormal eating behavior, visit the National Eating Disorders Association.

1National Eating Disorders Association (2013). Eating disorders on the college campus.

2Lim, S. A., & You, S. (2017). Effects of self-esteem and depression on abnormal eating behavior among Korean female college students: Mediating role of body dissatisfaction. Journal of Child and Family Studies, 26, 176-182. doi: 10.1007/s10826-016-0542-2

Motives for Alcohol Use

Over the past few weeks, we’ve covered “study drugs”, cigarette smoking, vaping, MDMA, and painkillers. However, the most common substance used on college campuses, by far, is alcohol.

Alcohol is just about everywhere – grocery stores, restaurants, sporting events, live shows, TV shows and movies, advertisements, the list goes on. As soon as you’re 21, it’s assumed you’ve at least tried alcohol. On college campuses, alcohol use is popular although it’s usually prohibited. Previously we’ve covered making informed choices concerning alcohol, myths about alcohol, and the effects of binge drinking, but have you ever asked yourself why you use alcohol?

Research has indicated four motives of alcohol use among college students: social, enhancement, conformity, and coping. Social motives include “liquid courage” and the way alcohol can make you feel more friendly and fun around others. Drinking for the effect of intoxication (getting drunk) is the enhancement motive and drinking to fit in with others is the conformity motive. Lastly, the coping motive is drinking to feel better, either physically or mentally.

All of these motives have been linked to either drinking more frequently, drinking higher amounts, or more alcohol-related problems, like driving under the influence or academic problems. While you may ultimately be faced with the decision to either drink or not to drink – it’s important to ask yourself why you’re drinking so you can be aware of the consequences and monitor your own use of alcohol. Lastly, while alcohol use is the norm for most individuals over 21, it doesn’t have to be your norm – do what is best for you.

If you or someone you care about are struggling with alcohol use, please reach out to the Counseling Center or call the 24-hour Crisis Line at (206) 461-3222.


Painkillers are not only prescription opioids, such as OxyContin (oxycodone) and Vicodin (hydrocodone), but can include over the counter painkillers such as aspirin, ibuprofen, and Tylenol. When taken as prescribed and how they’re meant to be used, painkillers can be helpful for alleviating the short-term pain of injuries and illnesses. However, when taken more frequently or at higher doses, painkillers, especially prescription opioids, become dangerous.

College student use of prescription painkillers has increased tremendously and is a common problem on campuses. For some students, they’re a way to alleviate stress.  For others, they are after the numb feeling painkillers can provide. For other students, though, the repeated use of prescription painkillers is not intentional.

The rise of prescription opioids and overdoses is largely due to the over prescription of painkillers. Student athletes are especially at risk of painkiller abuse. Prescriptions for sport-related injuries are common but sometimes student athletes are given prescriptions that are longer than necessary, leading to prolonged use and sometimes addiction. Opioids are also often prescribed after minor surgeries, such as having wisdom teeth removed.

Why are painkillers dangerous? Aside from being addictive, painkillers are often mixed with other substances, such as alcohol. The combination of alcohol and painkillers can slow breathing and cause death. Long-term use of painkillers can also impair cognition and memory. Even long-term use of over the counter painkillers can cause liver and kidney failure if used too often.

If you find yourself with a prescription for painkillers, only take them if necessary. You may be prescribed more than you need and if you are, dispose of them safely and do not use them recreationally – it’s not worth the risk to your health. If you or someone you care about are struggling with painkiller use, please reach out to the Counseling Center or call the 24-hour Crisis Line at (206) 461-3222.

Party Drugs: MDMA

Methylenedioxymethamphetamine, aka MDMA, is one of the most glamorized party drugs. Now, commonly known as “Molly”, MDMA is also the main ingredient in Ecstasy, which is usually mixed with other illicit drugs, such as LSD or speed. MDMA is one of the more popular party drugs among 18-25 year olds.

What are the effects on your brain and body?

  • MDMA impairs your ability to make judgment calls and can lead to poor decision-making, such as unsafe sex.
  • The flood of the drug on your brain alters naturally occurring chemicals (such as dopamine and serotonin), leading to later symptoms of depression and anxiety. This is especially impairing over the next several weeks after using the drug as your brain attempts to get back to its normal levels. MDMA can have negative long-lasting effects on brain chemistry.
  • MDMA increases your heart rate and body temperature, potentially leading to liver and kidney damage. Muscle tension, blurry vision, and nausea are common side effects, too.

While MDMA is an illegal drug, which already marks it as unsafe, it is even more problematic since it is unregulated – meaning that you never know what other drugs are mixed in. Despite media portrayal of MDMA as a nonaddictive drug, young adults are still dying from the use of MDMA – often in the form of Ecstasy and Molly that has been laced with other drugs.

If you or someone you care about are struggling with drug use, please reach out to the Counseling Center or call the 24-hour Crisis Line at (206) 461-3222.